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Internal Family Systems and Sand Therapy

Two approaches that work with the complexity of inner experience, one through inner dialogue and self-understanding, one through expression that doesn't require words at all.

Internal Family Systems (IFS)

What you might be experiencing.

Most of us have a sense that we contain conflicting voices or impulses. A part of you that wants to open up and another that keeps its distance. An inner critic that won't quit even when things are going well. A pattern of self-sabotage that defies your stated intentions.

An inner critic that is harsh and relentless, even when you're doing your best

Feeling torn between what you want and what you actually do

Numbing out, shutting down, or flooding emotionally in ways that feel out of your control

Difficulty being kind to yourself, even when you'd readily extend that compassion to someone else

Old patterns of coping that once made sense but now seem to get in the way

A sense of inner conflict that understanding hasn't quieted

IFS was developed by Dr. Richard C. Schwartz. It starts from the observation that the mind is naturally complex. Rather than trying to silence or overcome difficult inner experiences, IFS invites curiosity about them.

Source: IFS Institute, ifs-institute.com

The goal isn't to become a different person. It's to develop a different relationship with your own inner world, one that makes more room for choice, self-compassion, and the kind of change that actually sticks.

Vanessa's IFS training

Vanessa has completed IFS Institute Level 1 training. IFS is integrated with somatic and EMDR work, often providing the framework for what's being tracked at the body level.

Sand Therapy

When something doesn't have words yet.

Not everything we carry has organized itself into language. Some experiences are pre-verbal. Some are held in the body in ways that talk-based approaches haven't quite reached. Some simply feel easier to approach at a slight remove, through symbol and image rather than direct description.

A sense that verbal therapy has circled without breaking through to what actually matters

Experiences that feel difficult to approach directly or in words

Early experiences that predate language, or that were never put into words

Curiosity about what might emerge when the thinking mind steps back

Sand therapy uses miniature figures, objects, and a tray of sand to create three-dimensional scenes representing aspects of inner experience. Many adults find that working in the sand accesses something that purely verbal approaches don't reach.

Source: International Association for Sandtray Therapy, sandtraytherapy.org

Sand therapy can allow people to express things they find difficult to put into words, including experiences that are pre-verbal, body-held, or difficult to approach directly.

International Association for Sandtray Therapy
Vanessa's sand therapy training

Vanessa has completed foundational and advanced trainings in sand therapy, including the EMDR Sandtray Specialist Intensive Program through the AGATE Institute.

IFS and developmental trauma

A way to work with the full range of what's present, including the parts that protect.

One of the challenges of developmental and attachment trauma is that the protective strategies formed in early relational environments don't respond well to being confronted, bypassed, or treated as problems. They formed for good reasons. They've been doing their job, often very effectively, for decades.

IFS approaches these protective parts with genuine curiosity rather than strategic management. Rather than working around the inner critic, the people-pleaser, the hyper-competent performer, or the part that shuts down when intimacy gets too close, IFS works with them directly.

In IFS, the goal isn't to eliminate the parts that feel problematic. It's to develop enough of a relationship with them that they're no longer running the show without the rest of you having a say.

IFS is often used in combination with somatic and EMDR work. For more on how the approaches integrate in the intensive format, see the Intensive page or Somatic Experiencing.
What actually happens in the sand tray

The sand tray is a container roughly the size of a shallow box, filled with sand. On surrounding shelves are hundreds of miniature figures representing virtually any element of inner or outer experience.

The invitation is simply to build a scene, without instruction, interpretation, or a required outcome. The therapeutic work is in the making and in the looking. Vanessa does not impose interpretations. She asks questions that invite the person to notice: what drew you to that figure, what belongs in this corner, what is missing, what would need to change for this scene to feel different.

Why sand therapy reaches what verbal approaches don't

The sand tray bypasses the verbal, analytical mind, which in cognitively sophisticated adults is often both a strength and an obstacle. Material that has been circled verbally for years can sometimes find its way into a tray in a session in a way that produces genuine surprise, even for people with significant therapeutic experience.